Analysis of Anger

Anger, in simple words, is one's reaction to feeling threatened. It starts from discomfort and leads to irritation, and at times it aggravates to violent rage. Anger is often mistaken for aggression. Terms such as hostility, aggression, and mood swing are used almost as a substitute for Anger, however there is a thin line of difference between them.

Hostility − While anger is the driving emotion, our own interpretation and judgment of situations result in Hostility. Hostility breeds and encourages Aggression.

Aggression − Aggression is the behavior that has the tendency to harm people/property. It is the final outcome of the anger brewing inside us.

Mood Swing − It is a lingering emotional state which can range from irritation to violent expressions of anger. When the mood is at its peak, it completely overtakes every other emotion. Interestingly, the word 'mood' derives from the old English word 'mōd' which means 'courage'.

Negatives of Anger

Rohan lives in an apartment. He wakes up one morning and finds someone has moved his bike from its parking spot without his consent. He first experiences a discomfort at someone having encroached the private space of his property. Slowly but surely, anger starts to brew. "Oh, sure! Go on − treat me like a worthless guy! Why even bother asking me for anything!" A hostile mental environment forms due to this interpretation of the situation.

While he was still talking to himself in anger, suddenly his son appears and asks him to help fix the fan. Already disturbed with his internal conflicts, Rohan yells out, reducing his son to tears. This venting out might have calmed Rohan temporarily, but the guilt and shame inside him for having hurt his son makes him grumpy and disagreeable for the rest of the morning. At work, the colleagues will notice and whisper among themselves − “Rohan is in a bad mood today.”

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BENEFITS OF CHARCOAL!

Charcoal is one of the most disregarded products at home. We only see the need for it when it is time to set fire for Banku.
However, if you really need first aid, charcoal is something you need to have on you all the time. You might not know this but it is one of the most medicinal products you can have at home due to its poison extraction ability.
In case you never gave it much attention, this is the time to do so. Here are *13* benefits of charcoal you never thought about.

1. Preventing Odour
Does your shoe smell bad? Just get some charcoal & put it in them. Do you have any bad smell in your room? Drop some charcoal where you suspect the smell could be coming from. Does your fridge or freezer smell? Put a piece of charcoal in it. Do you have strong body odour? Just make a powder out of charcoal & use.
Charcoal is very good at getting rid of bad smell. Ever wondered why your parents always scooped out the ash from the coal pot to pour in the hen coop or toilet before sweeping? That was to get rid of the odour.

2. Keeping_Food_Fresh
If you want your vegetables to be fresh all the time, just make a solution out of charcoal & leave your vegetables in them. Thank us later.

3. Removing toxins From Food
These days, people complain about the use of fertilizers on plants & vegetables, making them unwholesome & poisonous. If you have charcoal, you don’t need to worry about this. All you need to do is leave the vegetables in a charcoal solution overnight & it’ll take care of the toxins. If you suspect any food contains too many chemicals, just drop them in a charcoal solution for some hours & you’re good to go.

4. For teeth Whitening
If you want to whiten your teeth, pay no attention to all these adverts on whitening chemicals & technology. Just get yourself some charcoal & grab hold of a plantain stalk. Make a powder out of the charcoal, mash the tip of the plantain stalk, dip it into the charcoal powder & brush your teeth with it for a week.

5. Restoring_Soup_That_Went_Bad
Did your groundnut soup or palm nut soup go bad? No need to worry about pouring it all away. Just put it back on fire & drop a piece of charcoal in it. This will extract all the bad taste & smell & restore the soup to its fresh state.

6. Detoxifying
Do you have a hangover out of a drink out with friends the previous night? Just have some charcoal with you & chew on it. To make it more effective, make a nice solution out of it & drink. You’re good to go.

7. Neutralizing Alcohol
If you mistakenly did some wild mixing & feel it can knock you out, just add some charcoal to the mixture & your problem is solved. Or if you took in too much alcohol, just drink some charcoal solution & you’re good to go.

8. Healing Wounds
Do you have a situation where someone’s wound has become so infected to the state doctors are saying they have to cut the affected area? Don’t stress over it, get a large amount of charcoal powder & pour it on the wound. This will extract all the poison from the wound & also help it heal faster. If you have a cut & you want to treat it fast, just get some powdered charcoal & pour on it.

9. Water Filtration
Do you feel your water is contaminated? You don’t need all these products on the market. Charcoal can do better, just drop some amount of it in it. Don’t worry about the colour, it is safe, you can even chew on charcoal. It is far safer than eating chicken from KFC.

10. Skin Cleansing
Do you have pimples, acne or any skin disease you really want to get rid of or do you want a very smooth face or skin? All you need is charcoal. Make a thick solution out of it & smear it on your body & leave it on for some hours before taking your bath. It will leave your skin smooth & fresh.

11. Stain removal
Do you have some stubborn stain in your kitchen, washroom or on your tiles? You actually need charcoal to get rid of it. I know you’re imagining how this black stainy product can actually remove stains right? Just try it, it works like magic.

12. Getting rid of a Bloated Stomach
If you ate or drank something & feel bloated, charcoal is the best solution to get rid of the bloating.

13. Get Rid of bad Cholesterol
Making a solution out of it & drinking helps eliminate all the bad cholesterol you have stored in you.

14. Ulcer Treatment
Charcoal can treat all ulcers. Just make it a habit to always chew some.

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A MUST READ!!! WHAT YOU OUGHT TO KNOW ABOUT CHRISTMAS

WHAT IS CHRISTMAS
Christmas though claimed to be Christian festival is not found in the bible.
Christmas is a word that evolved from the fusion of two separate words Christ and mass. While Christ mean messiah, mass refer to a religious ritual performed by a denominational group as part of her self-willed practice and worship.

THE ORIGIN OF CHRISTMAS
The origin of Christmas and its celebration cannot be traced from the bible but history point it to bishop liberious of Rome, who order the people then to celebrate Christmas on December 25th as the birth day of Christ in the year 354AD. See word book encyclopedia Vol.3 page 416. However before December 25th was finally chosen as the birth day of Christ and for its celebration, various dates were selected such as January 6th , march 25th and December 25th . See comptions puetered encyclopedia vol.3 page 332.
History also states, according to the Christian calendar page 21, word book encyclopedia vol. 3 page 416 and the new illustrated encyclopedia of kwonledge page 112 that December 25th was mainly chosen then to be the birth day Christ and the celebration of its as Christmas, in order to dissociate the roman “Christian” from participating with the roman pagans who were celebrating their roman feast of Saturn,in which the celebrate the birth day of the sun(the roman god of agriculture and vegetables) on the same day of December 25th
Furthermore, because Christmas festival is not found in the bible but modified pagan feasts by the Romans some of the practices which were being done during the celebration of the pagan feast of Saturn in Rome were also incorporated in the Christmas celebration, eg Christmas tree, yule log, giving of presents and decoration of houses. See the New illustration Encyclopedia of knowledge page 112.
Christmas is not a christen feast, so we must not observe it for the following reasons
The origin is the way of the heathen and in Jeremiah 10:1-6, God warned his people not to learn the way of the heathens. What dose Xmas tree represent? The book of Jeremiah 10:2-4 state “thus says the lord” do not learn the way of heathen; do not be dismayed at the signs of heaven for the heathen are dismayed at them. For the custom of the people are futile; for one cuts a tree from the forest. The work of the hands of the workman, with the axe. They decorate it with silver and gold;, they fasten it with nails and harmers, so that it will not topple” see the wisdom of man.
Do not forget that we are disusing why you should not celebrate Christmas-the second point is that “the narration of the fact of Christ’s birth is not a command but a fulfillment of prophecy
The dates which were fixed by men are not uniform but laced with confusion as Eastern Europe observes Christmas as January 6, others on 18th and 19th. God is not the Author of confusion. See 1 cor.14:33
Christ did not begin his existence from here. See col. 1:15-17 “who is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn of every creature: for by him were all things created, that are in heaven and that are in earth visible and invisible, whether they be thrones or dominions or principalities, or power; all things were created by him and for him and he is before all things, and by him all things consist’. Thus, his birth into the world is clearly known and should be understood only as God’s manifestation “in the flesh 1 tim.3:16. “And without controversy great is the mystery of godliness. God was manifest in the flesh, justified in the spirit, seen of angles, preached unto the Gentiles, believed on in the world, received up into glory”. So needless to celebrate his birth as he had existed before time and season.
Christmas should not be celebrated by true Christians because anything we do religiously is Christianity must be done in the name (authority) of our lord Jesus Christ which can only be found in the New Testament scripture. Therefore, the facts that Christmas festival is nowhere to be found in the new testament scriptures either by being commanded or by being celebrated by Christ himself, his apostles, or the early Christians, evidently shows that such religious feast is not authorized by Christ our only lawgiver, the author and finisher of our faith, rather it is a commandment from men which Christ condemned totally in the scriptures. See James 4:12, Heb 12:2, col. 3:17
It is a blatant fallacy to make Christmas Christians festival, because there is no command from Christ or any act of apostles (Apostolic example) to authenticate its celebrations. This is the wisdom of men which does not adore God even as Christ as stated in his word “But in vain they do worship men, teaching for doctrines the commandment of men.” Matt. 15:9. Man cannot replace the word of God with his own and be accepted.
The bible says for I bear them record that they have a zeal of God, but not according to knowledge for they being ignorant of God’s righteousness and going about to established their own righteousness have not submitted themselves to the righteousness of God Rom.10:1-3. God has never left man unguided in man’s search to please him. Hence, the warning” and whatsoever you do in words or deed, do all in the Name of the lord jesus, giving thanks to God and the father by him Col. 3:17. “in the name of the lord Jesus” quoted above means in the authority Christ and Christ has commanded. Whereas, the bible says there is ignorant worship. Rom.10:1-3, there is vain worship. Matt. 15:9 but the true and acceptable worship must flow from a sincere heart and must be done in truth. John 4:24

Conclusion
The worshipers of the living God are expected to walk by faith and not by sight. Not by of wisdom of men but by the will of God. (11Cor. 5:7, 1Thess. 2:3-5) Christ commanded the Christians should celebrate a feast to remember his death not his birth. Math 26:26-30, 1Cor. 11:23-26. We would not serve God and be pleasing on him if the items of such service are born out of our instinct. Christmas is traced to a pagan feast in the then Rome and it is idolatry. Therefore, no matter how enticing and glamorous it may be, it does not glorify God and all the celebration amount to ignorance, waste and heresy ….BEWARE!!!

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THE TRUTH ABOUT CHRISTMAS

INTRODUCTION
The world today believes that “Christmas” is the birthday of Jesus Christ. But it should be noted that the word “Christmas” is derived from two words – “Christ” and “mas”.

We Christians know that the word “Christ” means the Messiah or the One sent to redeem us from sin. On the other hand, the word “Mas”, according to James Gibbons, a Catholic scholar, is derived from the Catholic sacrifice of Mass (during Eucharist or Holy Communion celebration). Candles are usually burnt during the process. ( See Faith of Our Fathers, page 355).

Thus, it is clear that the word “Christmas” has nothing to do with birthday. The word is therefore a misnomer for our Lord’s birthday as Christ and Mas do not connote Christ’s birthday. We Christians must therefore separate our Lord (Christ) from Mass as the term, apart from lacking support of scriptures, does not mean birthday.

ORIGIN OF CHRISTMAS
Before the advent of Christianity, the Roman heathen had the feast of Winter Solstice (i.e feast of the sun) usually celebrated in December period.

It is said that with the advent of Christianity and consequently Catholicism, many of the heathen believed in Christ. In spite of this “conversion” they were still observing the heathen feast of Winter Solstice. So, in 354 AD a Roman Catholic bishop named Liberius declared December 25 as Christ’s birthday so that instead of worshipping the Sun, the heathen who have been converted to “Christianity” will now use the occasion to worship the Son of God (See World Book Encyclopaedia Vol. 3 Page 1425). So, “Christmas” has its origin from paganistic heathenism, 321 years after Christianity started in AD 33. This might be a good idea humanly speaking. But in matters of faith, we cannot think for God as His ways are not our ways Isa 55:6-9.

WHEN WAS CHRIST BORN?
The Bible has record of Christ’s birth in Matt. 1:18-21 and in other corresponding passages of Mark and Luke but the date is not recorded. In Deut 29:29, the Bible says that the secret things belong to God but those that are revealed to us belong to us. So, if God and the Holy Spirit did not disclose the birthday of Christ to us in the Bible, the silence of the Holy Spirit and God in that regard must be respected. Otherwise, it will be an addition to the word of God to purport to fix a date as Bishop Liberius did in AD 354. Please note that God warns against such unauthorised addition to His word towards the beginning of the Scriptures in Deut 4:2, that warning was sounded; in the middle of the scriptures in Prov 30:5-6, the warning was re-echoed and finally at the end of scriptures in Rev. 22:18-19 the warning and its consequences were laid down by the Holy Spirit. So, let us avoid the wrath of God and desist from any act that will amount to an addition to God’s word.

December 25 is a common assumption as the birthday of Christ just as we have other common assumptions that are erroneous in the Christendom today. For example, it is often assumed by many that “three wise men” brought gifts to Christ when He was born. But please my dear reader/listener have you ever taking time out to find out if the number of wise men was given in the scripture? The story of the wise men’s visit when Christ was born is recorded in Matt. 2:1-11 and the Bible only reveals that wise men came from the east to Jerusalem Matt.2:1. The fact that the wise men presented three different types of gifts to Jesus in Matt. 2:11 does not automatically mean that the visitors were three. The only truth that can be derived from Matt. 2:1 is that the visitors were in their plural. They could have been two, three or even more. Two visitors can present three types of gifts (if one brings two types of gifts and the other brings the third gift, just the same way more that three visitors can present the same gifts). Other erroneous assumptions in the Christendom include, Catholic Church being the first church. This is wrong because the Church of Christ, established in AD 33 (Acts 2) is the first church. Also, many do refer to the building where the church worships as the church. From the Bible point of view, the word “church” is derived from the Greek word eklesia meaning “the called out”, “a gathering” or “an assembly”. The church can worship anywhere that is convenient for her to assemble or gather.

Moreover, it should be noted that from the Bible point of view, Jesus could never have been born in December going by the account of Lk 2:1-8. This is because in verse 8 of that passage, we read that when Christ was born, Shepherds were seen abiding in the field keeping watch over their flock. Those who are familiar with the city where Christ was born know that Shepherds are not normally seen in the field during winter, which is the period of December.

If God had intended that Christians should celebrate the birthday of Christ, it would have been clearly stated in scriptures. After all, God did it before in the Old Testament when he wanted the Jews to celebrate Passover, He gave them the exact date to be on the 14th of the first month. Ex.13:4; Lev.23:5; Num.9:2-3. So, giving date is not a big deal to God.

THE ONLY FEAST FOR CHRISTIANS TODAY
The only feast meant for Christians to celebrate in honour of Christ in a religious sense is the Lord’s Supper otherwise known as the Holy Communion Matt 26:26; Acts 20:7; ICor.11:23-30. Observe it with great respect and honour for Christ because it is a remembrance of the death and resurrection of Christ, which is the bedrock of the Christian faith. But unfortunately, this is the feast most neglected by those who claim to be Christians No instruction could be more clear than “Do this in remembrance of me” as clearly stated in ICor. 11:26.

CONSEQUENCES OF OBSERVING CHRISTMAS
Let us note the following facts: a) Christ did not celebrate His birthday when He was alive; b) His disciples did not celebrate it either; c) The Bible did not command us expressly nor impliedly to observe Christ’s birthday; therefore to observe it is an addition to the word of God which is punishable according to Deut 4:2; Prov. 30:6; Rev. 22:18-19.

CONCLUSION: It is only sentiment that makes people to think that if Jesus was such a great man in history then his birthday must be observed by his followers. But we should not forget that we cannot think for God. His thoughts are different from ours (Isa 59:8-9). Moreover, statistics has shown that the sins of fornication, drunkenness and reckless driving leading to unwarranted accidents are more during the so-called Christmas celebration. Can this be the best way to mark the birthday of the One who came to seek and save the lost and saved us from our sins?? Lk 19:10; Matt 1: 21. Definitely not!

What therefore should Christians do during Christmas since December 25 has been universally accepted by men as the birthday of Christ? The period should merely be observed as just any other holiday. But definitely not the way the people of the world mark it with all sorts of sins. The fact that the whole world has accepted it does not mean acceptance by God. After all, the Bible says in Romans 3:4   “……….let God be true and every man liar”....

Jeremiah 10:1-5....origin of Christmas tree

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No one must die of cancer

Mukul Kanitkar: He is famous doctor at AIIMS in the department of oncology ( cancer ) . Please take out few min to listen him

No one must die of cancer except out of carelessness;

(1). First step is to stop all sugar intake, without sugar in your body, cancer would die a natural death.

(2). Second step is to blend a whole lemon fruit with a cup of hot water and drink it for about 1-3 months first thing before food and cancer would disappear, research by Maryland College of Medicine says, it's 1000 times better than chemotherapy.

(3). Third step is to drink 3 spoonfuls of organic coconut oil, morning and night and cancer would disappear.

You can choose any of the two therapies after avoiding sugar.
Ignorance  is no excuse;

I have been sharing this information for over 5 years. Let everyone around you know, it's a sacrilege for anyone this day to die of cancer;
God bless.
Enjoy your wonderful day.

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The Power of A Paradigm Shift

How did you feel when you notice that there's nothing like ‘Old school’ but ‘Old's cool?’

How did you react the day you discovered that 'i.e' doesn't mean 'that is' but 'in essence'?

Did you marvel at your knowledge when you read that it is not 'ayamatagar'  but ‘I am at anger?’

If you didn't, I did. I was just surprised the day I discovered all of these but amazingly I changed my views immediately.  That is the power of a paradigm shift.

A paradigm (not paradigim) is a model, and a model is a representation of something.

For humans, our paradigm, model or map is what determines the reality we see or is a representation of reality.

Hence, the map (our perception of reality) is not the territory (reality).

For instance, two people might see something an give a different report. But whatever report they give is based on how they see reality not reality itself.

This explains why where we stand depends on where we sit.

You may have attended many seminars where you were told to ‘never give up. Work hard’ etc but if you fail to deal with the real problem, which often is how you see a problem, nothing would work.

For instance, no matter how you develop a positive attitude, given the wrong map, you'll only get to the wrong direction faster.

You might not have achieved all of your goals because you have the wrong map about success but you can correct that map to make the best of next year.

Through the admission of ignorance which is the first step in our education, we can easily correct out maps by starting through an inside out approach.

We all need a new level of thinking to create the kind of life we want for ourselves. And such can only happen from inside out.

My point?
Change how you see things.

The power of a paradigm shift is the essential power of quantum change.

By changing how you see things, the things you see change, and success becomes easy to get.

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ARE YOU MARRIED OR NOT? EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT

"Dad, can you loan me N500,000?," Kola asked his father.
"What for son?," his father asked.
"For my wedding.
"By our calculations, we're falling short meeting the cost."
Kola had come to meet his parents with his fiancé.
"Your wedding?
"How much is the total cost of the wedding?," his father asked.
"N3.6 million.
"We're thinking of starting the committee next week.
"We can together give about N800,000 and expect our friends to help us raise about N2 million.
"I remember you told me if ever I need help, I can come to you," Kola answered.
His father held him by the shoulder and said, "Go get your wife and come meet me in my study room."
"Yes, dad," Kola obliged.

Minutes later, Kola and his fiancé, Tomilayo, walked into his father's study room.
"Having a good time, my daughter?," Kola's father asked.
"Yes I am.
"You and your wife are so hospitable.
"I pray that Kola and I can emulate your marriage.
"You are an admirable couple," answered Kola's fiance.
"Thank you.
"I am delighted to have you as my daughter.
"This is your home, you're welcome anytime," said father.

They sat down.

"Thank you dad."
"So, I hear you want to spend N3.6 million for your wedding and you need me to help with N800,000?," asked father.
"Yes, we will greatly appreciate," said the fiancé.
"The wedding will be at the Total Garden, Ibadan in about six months time," said Kola.
"Why do you want to have a big wedding?," father asked.
"Well, it's our big day.
"She's always dreamt of a big wedding," Kola replied.
"Have you dreamt of a big wedding or a strong marriage?," the father asked the fiancé.
"When you put it that way, it's more of a strong marriage," said the fiancé.
"Good.
"You've answered wisely.
"So who do you expect to come for your wedding?," asked the father.
"Friends and relatives.
"About seven hundred people," answered Kola.
"How many true friends do you really have?
"I mean friends who have been tried and tested to be there for you through thick and thin?," asked the father.
Kola and Tomilayo looked at each other.
"Countable," the fiancé answered.
"So who are these other people who will come to your wedding?," asked the father.

Silence.

"OK. Let's go to the relatives.
"I know you love your relatives, but how many are really close to you?
"You barely talk with the many relatives you have," said the father.
"What are you trying to say dad?," asked Kola.
"My son, my daughter; why do you want to spend N3.6 million on a wedding, a one-day event, yet you need the money in your marriage
"Look, you are actually coming to ask me for money, you will form a committee to ask people for money; all to show off and please people, who will not even matter in your marriage!"

Silence.

The father continued, "Let me share with you my experience.
"When I married your mother, we spent about a million for the wedding.
"That was a lot of money then.
"We fed people, got stressed by service providers, just so that we put up a wedding that will win the applause of a crowd.
"But as soon as we got married, the crowd disappeared.
"All the issues that your mother and I went through, no one cared, even family couldn't do much.
"Every one is busy living their life.
"When things got tough, the crowd gossiped about us, some even seemed happy that our marriage was in trouble!"

Silence.

"I have seen this script repeated over and over.
"Brides get stressed on their wedding day, they can't even enjoy, couples being angry at friends who don't support them financially, the worst part is starting marriage in debt or struggling financially.
"Do you know a wedding doesn't have to cost so much, it doesn't have to be stressful, it doesn't have to be full of people who perhaps will never talk to you again?," added the father.
"But dad, what will people think if we do a small wedding or we don't invite them?" asked the fiancé.
"Are you getting married for people?
"If you have a small wedding with only the witnesses who matter, will you two not be married
"What is all this competition of who has a grand wedding for?
"People are competing on Facebook, in weddings; why this need to show off?
"You know that money you are about to blow in one day, you can use it to invest in your marriage, you can start the process of buying or building a home, you can save up for the needs of the children you will have because you need money to raise a family.
"Why not start your marriage financially healthy and not in debt?
"Marriage is what is more important than a wedding," continued the father.
"Dad, if you don't want to support us it's OK," said Kola.
The fiancé stopped him, saying, "No my love, dad has a point.
"I actually find the idea of a small wedding not just wise and economical, but also intimate.
"Marriage is just you and me, not people."

The father spoke, "My son, in all the years you have been a man, you have never come to me asking for money, but now you are asking for money to put up a show?
"I look further, I look at your marriage.
"I admire how people come together in a wedding committee to raise money and I wonder, what if couples and people use that same energy to put up a business that will uplift families.
"Those members who will be part of your wedding committee, imagine if they become your investors, imagine if you build a company where you can make profit and feed your homes.
"Something sustainable."

Kola and his fiancé nodded.

"My son, I have longed for the day you would come and ask me to invest in your business idea.
"But today I will make the first move," the father said taking his cheque book from his drawer.
He wrote on the cheque then gave it to the fiancé.
"Here my son, this is a cheque of N5 million, not for your wedding, but as start up capital for a business of your choice.
"I am giving the cheque to your wife, because as Proverbs 31 said, she is to walk with you in building an empire for your family.
"Focus on your family, give your family the best; forget about the public and opinions of people who don't matter.
"Build a future for your family.
"Build your family on a foundation of surplus not debt."
"Thank you so much," said the fiancé.

Kola stood up with tears in his eyes.

His father stood up too.

The father and son hugged.

"Thank you dad for being a great figure and your counsel.
"I don't know what to say.
"You have challenged me not to merely get married but to have a vision, a vision for my family.
"I don't know what to say" he said.
The father held his shoulder, "You will make a great husband and father.
"I wish I had the same counsel when I was getting married, all those people I fed on my wedding day didn't add value to my marriage.
"In fact, if I was to organise an event and feed multitudes, I would do so for the less-fortunate and those in need.
"Marriage is not for show."

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