VIRGINS AND MASTURBATION

I get lots of questions on masturbation most especially from ladies -yes, ladies masturbate a lot, especially virgins. Guys also masturbate. There is no debate on that. I'm not here to
argue about who masturbates most, I need to deal with a serious issue.

Sexual urge for virgins is strong. What makes it stronger is the novelty, newness, the mystery and the hearsays about sex.
Masturbation is fondling your genitals consistently to achieve orgasm. Ladies may stroke their clitorises, while guys rub, massage or caress their penises.
Some ladies especiallly non-virgins use candles, banana, small bottles, sticks, dildos and recently Cucumber or whatever represents a penis and do solo sex (having sex by yourself).
From teenage upward, you will have a strong desire for sex.

It's a sure sign you are normal and capable of having and enjoying sex in marriage. In your 20s it will be stronger and intense!
You may wake up feeling horny for no single reason in the world or go hot on spotting a curvy lady!
You may start noticing shapes and curves and you have to shake your head several times to keep the images off.
You may get worked up on watching a romantic movie and discharge something.
You check up and discover you are wet. All these are normal, you haven't committed any sin.
So what then do you do when you get hot and horny? Have sex? I know you know my answer and some singles will never be caught dead sleeping around, so what do they do? They masturbate!
They give themselves release and pleasure through solo sex while claiming virginity at the same time. Masturbation is completely wrong and not the way out. Let me explain:

1. Masturbation is not done in isolation. It is done with the image of someone in mind. It can be a lover, an EX, a celebrity, a married person, a crush, someone you like but incapable of having. You imagine having sex with them while masturbating. This is MENTAL FORNICATION!!!

2. For ladies, while inserting all manner of objects, you may mistakenly deflower yourself and also introduce infections into your genitals and womb. It will be very difficult to convince your future partner that you never had sex with any man except objects during your solo sex.

3. You kill your ability to enjoy sex in future. Millions of women don't enjoy sex in marriage which leads to sexual frustration, adultery, lesbianism and feminism.
If you are used to getting orgasm by yourself, you won't be able to get it from your husband. If you are used to objects in your private part, you won't have feelings for your husband's penis. You will always think of something harder, bigger, longer, larger and completely unrealistic! Women who complain their husbands penises are too small didn't marry as virgins. They must have been promiscuous as singles.

4. You will not have a good sex life as a man. You will experience premature ejaculation and your wife won't enjoy you, this can lead to acute sexual frustration in marriage. You need self control to fully enjoy sex and give your wife maximum sexual pleasure.
A woman enjoys sex when the man can go on for at least 7 minutes before ejaculating. Because you are used to instant release from masturbation, you may not be able to go more than a minute before exploding, leaving your wife completely unsatisfied and frustrated.
She may close up, become frigid and stop having sex altogether which may lead to you having an affair, she having an affair or both of you having affairs. Self control before marriage helps you enjoy sex to the maximum. You are able to delay ejaculation, go on for a long time and have excellent orgasm while giving your wife pleasure too.
That is why total virginity pays!!!

5. If you do not suffer premature ejaculation, you may have serious problem with delayed/ retarded ejaculation. A situation where you get erection for several hours without ejaculation or reaching orgasm. What is the benefit of sex without orgasm?
Rough masturbation with your hands kills your ability to feel/enjoy sex with your wife. It is hell for a woman to be under a man who thrusts in for hours and is unable to ejaculate. How will the woman get pregnant?
It's the reason some women are seemingly "barren" and can't talk to anybody out of embarrassment.
Thrusting hard for so long leaves the woman sore, frustrated and hating sex altogether.
You have so much to lose sexually when you masturbate.
Abstaining from this degrading and ungodly act helps you feel relaxed, confident, have normal sexual intercourse and enjoy the pleasures that comes with sex IN MARRIAGE!

6. You start having sex in the dream with a known or unknown face (demonic entities other wise known as spiritual spouses).

7. You feel drained, dirty, empty, useless and powerless after each act.

8. You start getting unsatisfied and wanting the real thing.
You fantasize more about sex and start longing for the real act.

9. You get a warped view of the opposite sex. You see them as sexual objects and start having sex with anything in skirt or trousers, hence, you become promiscuous.

10. You get damaged, hurt and broken.

11. You are at risk of hell fire!
These and more are the consequences of masturbation. They damage you and shatter you to pieces! What then should you do with your sexual urge?

How do you handle the constant hunger for sex?

1. Avoid all dirty pictures, pornography videos, pictures and hot, romantic movies -they are powerful sexual triggers!

2. Avoid friends who say dirty, lewd and obscene things. Stop all sexy banters with friends and say only things that are pure, holy, needful and helpful.

3. Get busy with your life, education and career, there is more to life than sex.

4. Transmute your sexual energy: Channel your sexual energy into something great....

For those into it already, it's never too late to stop!
Realization leads to manifestation..
You need to realize that this is an ungodly and damming act and hence, be determined to stop such and with the help of Christ, you can be victorious over such..

All you need do is to surrender to Jesus Christ totally.. Only He can help you..
Avoid those all mentioned in 1 and 2 above on how to handle your sexual hunger..

Never leave your mind idle for such thoughts to bear fruits(Let God's Word be used to overcome such thoughts.. Meditate on the Word)

Finally, seek counsel,  meet up with a counsellor,  more especially in Church; one in whom you can tell it to exactly as it is..

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Man o man

Man, O Man!
When without money, eats vegetables at home.
When he has money, eats the same vegetables in a fine restaurant.

When without money, rides a bicycle to and from home.
When he has money rides an  ‘exercise bicycle’ at the gym.

When without money, walks to earn food.
When he has money, walks to burn fat.

Man, O Man! Never fails to deceive thyself!

When without money, wishes to get married;
When he has money, wishes to get divorced.

When without money, wife becomes secretary;
When he has money, secretary becomes wife.

When without money, acts like a rich man.
When he has money acts like a poor man.

Man, O Man! Never can tell the simple truth!

Says share market is bad, but keeps speculating.
Says money is evil, but keeps accumulating.
Says high positions are lonely, but keeps wanting them.
Says gambling & drinking is bad, but keeps indulging.

Man, O Man! Never means what he says and never says what he means..

Life is not about what you couldn't do so far, it's about what you can still do.
                             
N200 seems too much to give a beggar but it seems okay when its given as tip at a fancy restaurant.

Praying to God for 3 minutes
takes too much time but
watching a movie for 3 hours doesn't.

Two poor starving kids sitting on the pavement
weren't given even a slice of bread but a painting of them is sold for hundred dollars.

Think about It..
Make a change, because you can ....
Here are six easy ways to earn, even after death.

1) Give a smile or gift to someone. Each time you give a smile, it will make someone's day. You gain.

2) Donate a wheelchair to a hospital. Each time a sick person uses it, you gain.

3) Participate in building an orphanage, or a hospital or a school or a college. Anybody uses it, you gain.

4) Place a water cooler in a public place. When someone drinks the water, you gain.

5) Plant a tree. Whenever a person, animal sits in its shade or eats from it, you gain.

6) And the easiest of all is, share this message with people. Even if one applies any of the above, you gain.

I just did. Thanks for reading

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Christian Stay awake

Matthew 24:42 (ESV)  Therefore, stay awake, for you do not know on what day your Lord is coming.

The sequence of prophecy were been outlined. Line upon line, Jesus broke the seal of the future's secret. They asked and listened. Good for the moment. But they were to stay awake if they must see these things come to pass without being overwhelmed by it.

So is it today that the future is upon us and still yet. Things written millennia ago playing out like live screen. Almost as though we could never know. Almost happening all too fast and swallowing many on its path. Stay awake, he says. Sharpen your focus and be alert, christian. Only those who are alert will see danger and avert it. Only those who sleep not will see glory and embrace it.

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Missing rib should be free

Adam woke up & saw his missing rib standing beside him for free... But I have to go everywhere looking for mine. Pray and fast, convince her with calls and messages, Tantalizes and gifts. Then go to her village and spend my savings. All this for my own rib that got missing. This is totally unfair, I didn't even loose then rib out of carelessness. It was taken from me without my consent. This is unfair.  We have to protest

We will protest. Missing ribs must return for free.

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GET UP DON'T STAY DOWN

Yes! you may be knocked down many times by challenges of life but refuse to give up for there is a sweet story at the end of the journey.

Many have been knocked down and stayed down because of the lack of courage to rise and continue the race. They gave up so easily even when they were at a stone throw to their destinations. Don't join them.

Persevere in the face of  diversity and keep going when faced with problems of life. You may lose some battles today but you will win the war if you refuse to give up.

The fact is that, you will be knocked down on many occasions and when you are, just look up to the Creator that can lift you up to continue the journey and guide your steps.

You don't need to be depressed and give up because you are knocked down. Arise from the depression in which circumstances have kept you through divine help and rise to a new life so that you can complete the race successfully.

Instead of staying down there be inspired to get up to and reach up.
YOU SHALL WIN

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Path without obstacles

Let me quickly tell you.
I wish you quickly understand that any path without obstacles do not lead to your desired destination.
Don't think the journey of life will be smooth, but what I know is that "no matter what, you shall get to your promised land safely.

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Be grateful for the good health

A man reached 70 years of age and was affected by a disease which made him unable to urinate.

The doctors told him that he needs an operation to cure the disease.

He agreed to do the operation as the problem was giving him severe pain for days.

When the operation was completed the doctor gave him a bill which covered all the costs.

After looking at the bill, the man started crying. Upon seeing this, the doctor said "If the cost is too high then we could make some other arrangements for you.

"The old man replied, "I am not crying because of the money but I am crying because God let me urinate for 70 years and He never sent me a bill!"

Beloved, have you thanked God for His countless blessings today?

Have you thought about the cost of oxygen in the hospital? Yet, God has given us free oxygen (air) since we were born.

Can we not see that God is so gracious, merciful and full of compassion?

If you are truly grateful to God for your life, share this post to others, not because you expect a blessing but because you are grateful.

I'm grateful!!!

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